carnival english
I love you
cookies, pictures, favorite music albom, having a good time
the meaning of life was always both the easiest and the most difficult topics to think about. the great part of my unerstanding of life is loving what I do and make - and loving myself. I can`t imagine how people live without the feeling of creating your own unique world, the kand of milk and honey.
the problem is: sometimes I love myself, sometimes I don`t
the problem is: sometimes I love myself, sometimes I don`t
Our level of self-love is very consequential across our lives. It can be tempting to suppose that being hard on ourselves, though painful, is in the end quite useful. Self-flagellation can feel like a survival strategy that steers us clear of the many dangers of indulgence and complacency. But there are equal, if not greater, dangers in an ongoing lack of sympathy for our own plight. Despair, depression and suicide are not especially minor risks.
I feel love to myself when I see what I have done, even if it is not perfect. I perceive that I am human and I can create - that is enough.
Self-love brings together with love to things I create because they are a small part of me, too. All efforts I put on work can say something about me. Work does the trick for me.
Self-love brings together with love to things I create because they are a small part of me, too. All efforts I put on work can say something about me. Work does the trick for me.
Feeling good about ourselves isn't ultimately something we can bring about through professional or economic achievements alone: in huge part, it's going to be about coming to terms with ourselves; the result of understanding our past and the dynamics of shame, conditionality and humiliation that might lie there. It turns out that high self-esteem seems largely to be a prize of psychology rather than the fruit of anything we actually manage to achieve out in the world.
Am I loved?
I have every tool I could possibly need to feel joyful within myself. So, no one is in love with me. Maybe someone is, but they're too scared to come out and say it. Or, maybe Rousseau was right. Maybe feeling complete is not about being loved by anybody else.
Somewhere in our minds, removed from the day to day, there sits a judge. They watch what we do, study how we perform, examine the effect we have on others, track our successes and failures – and then, eventually, they pass a verdict. So consequential is this judgement, it colours our entire sense of ourselves. It determines our levels of confidence and self-compassion, it lends us a sense of whether we are worthwhile beings or conversely, should not really exist. The judge is in charge of what we call our self-esteem.
You need to make yourself responsible for your own happiness and not tie your worth to the actions of others. If you make YOURSELF the dictator of your own happiness, you'll be in a position to start better caring for yourself.
Glossary
tie your worth to the actions of others
assert yourself separately from others
dictator of your own happiness
you can rule your own happiness. actually only you decide if you are happy or not. everything depends on your attitude
feeling complete
feeling valuable and full, understanding that you are a human
self-flagellation
a bad thing
lack of sympathy for our own plight
when nobody wants to pity you :(
